Page 1 Page 2 Page 3 Page 4 Page 5 Page 6 Page 7 Page 8 Page 9 Page 10 Page 11 Page 12 Page 13 Page 14 Page 15 Page 16 Page 17 Page 18 Page 19 Page 20 Page 21 Page 22 Page 23 Page 24 Page 25 Page 26 Page 27 Page 28 Page 29 Page 30 Page 31 Page 32 Page 33 Page 34 Page 35 Page 36 Page 37 Page 38 Page 39 Page 40 Page 41 Page 42 Page 43 Page 44 Page 45 Page 46 Page 47 Page 489 GUIDING YOUNG PEOPLE THROUGH THE PRACTICAL REALITIES AFTER A SUICIDE DEATH Should children or teens attend the funeral or memorial service? Offer your child or teen the choice to attend the funeral or memorial service, regardless of their age. Having the choice to be involved lets a young person know they are a valued and important part of the family. Ask for their ideas on what to include in the service (e.g., flowers, music, photos, special rituals). If possible, allow them to put something in the casket or urn, such as drawings, letters, favorite toys, or sentimental objects. Teens may want to do something special, such as put a video together or choose the music to be played. If your child decides to attend, talk with them about what to expect. Where will the service be held? Will the body of the person who died be there? Who else will be there? How long will the service last? It’s also helpful to give them an idea of what other people might do or say. Consider role-playing in advance so they can practice how to respond to things people commonly say, such as “I’m so sorry for your loss,” “They’re in a better place now,” or “You have to be strong.” With younger children it’s a good idea to identify a trusted friend or family member as their “buddy,” someone who can take them to the restroom or outside for a break if they need it. Should my child view the body? Give children informed choices about whether or not to view the body of the person who died based on the information that you have. Give them a clear sense of what to expect, and talk with them about how seeing the body might be difficult, but also how it might be helpful to them. Reassure them that they can change their mind, even at the last second.