Page 1 Page 2 Page 3 Page 4 Page 5 Page 6 Page 7 Page 8 Page 9 Page 10 Page 11 Page 12 Page 13 Page 14 Page 15 Page 16 Page 17 Page 18 Page 19 Page 20 Page 21 Page 22 Page 23 Page 24 Page 25 Page 26 Page 27 Page 28 Page 29 Page 30 Page 31 Page 32 Page 33 Page 34 Page 35 Page 36 Page 37 Page 38 Page 39 Page 40 Page 41 Page 42 Page 43 Page 44 Page 45 Page 46 Page 47 Page 4813 Let them decide Since a death can leave young people feeling powerless, allowing them to make choices can help re-establish a sense of control. These choices can be simple and everyday (e.g., “Do you want to wear your red or purple T-shirt?”) or more complex, such as participating in the memorial service or sorting through the belongings of the person who died. While you may be inclined to become extra vigilant following a suicide death, it is important that teens be able to make some choices for themselves. Balance your teen’s freedom with oversight, and make sure that the friends they choose to spend time with are not encouraging high-risk behavior or negative coping skills. Do keep in mind that some of a grieving teen’s friends may avoid the teen simply because they don’t know how to respond to the death. Create rituals around holidays and anniversaries You may want to mark significant days such as the birthday of the person who died, the anniversary of their death, and traditional holidays like Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, and year-end holidays by remembering the person who died in a meaningful way. Involve children and teens in commemorative activities without forcing them. These activities may include visiting the gravesite, going to a special place, sharing a favorite meal, lighting a candle, and sharing memories. Remember and talk about the person who died Even though remembering is an important part of grieving, it is often avoided when the cause of death was suicide. Don’t be afraid to talk about and remember the person who died, and encourage other family members to do the same. You might say, “Your mom really liked this song,” or “Your dad made the best pizza.” By doing this, you give children permission to share their own feelings and memories.