Page 1 Page 2 Page 3 Page 4 Page 5 Page 6 Page 7 Page 8 Page 9 Page 10 Page 11 Page 12 Page 13 Page 14 Page 15 Page 16 Page 17 Page 18 Page 19 Page 20 Page 21 Page 22 Page 23 Page 24 Page 25 Page 26 Page 27 Page 28 Page 29 Page 30 Page 31 Page 32 Page 33 Page 34 Page 35 Page 36 Page 37 Page 38 Page 39 Page 40 Page 41 Page 42 Page 43 Page 44 Page 45 Page 46 Page 47 Page 4816 If a question comes up that you don’t know the answer to, don’t feel you need to be definitive; it’s okay to say, “This is the best guess I have.” Start by sharing your thoughts, then invite the children to share their own ideas. Here are some questions that often arise after a suicide loss, and suggestions on how to respond. Adjust your answers to the child’s maturity level, as needed. Why did they do this? You know, I have that question, too. We may never have all the answers as to why your mom killed herself. There are some things that we do know, though. She felt hopeless, and was drinking too much, and that probably made her think she didn’t want to be alive anymore. Who will take care of me if you die? There will always be someone to take care of you. Is there someone you’d prefer to take care of you if I should die? Why would you choose them? Is there someone you would not choose? I have made a plan with your aunt and uncle; they love you very much and will take care of you if something should happen to me. Even though we never know when we will die, I plan to live for a very long time and take care of you the best that I can. Will you die by suicide? Will I die like that, too? I don’t intend to die by suicide. If I ever started to think about it, I would tell someone and get help. If you ever think about it, you can tell me [and/or another adult], and I will get you help. Can we agree that we will both do that? Just because your brother died by suicide doesn’t mean you or I will, but it is important that you talk about it if you start to have thoughts about suicide.