Page 1 Page 2 Page 3 Page 4 Page 5 Page 6 Page 7 Page 8 Page 9 Page 10 Page 11 Page 12 Page 13 Page 14 Page 15 Page 16 Page 17 Page 18 Page 19 Page 20 Page 21 Page 22 Page 23 Page 24 Page 25 Page 26 Page 27 Page 28 Page 29 Page 30 Page 31 Page 32 Page 33 Page 34 Page 35 Page 36 Page 37 Page 38 Page 39 Page 40 Page 41 Page 42 Page 43 Page 44 Page 45 Page 46 Page 47 Page 4837 How do I find a balance between accommodating their grief and school demands? Help your teen determine what they can and cannot handle, and help them evaluate this on an ongoing basis. Most teens won’t know their limit until they get in over their heads, so give them permission to let things go (e.g., extra school activities) or to ask for a reduced homework load if they have trouble keeping up. Each teen grieves differently and will need to learn to balance the demands of school, home, and friends for themselves. Be supportive and flexible as they try to find that balance, and provide a listening ear and advice when asked. SUICIDAL THINKING AND SUICIDE RISK A grieving teen often looks and sounds like any other teen in many ways. It can be difficult to sort out which behaviors may be related to grieving and which have to do with the many challenges of adolescence. Regardless, any of your teen’s actions that are concerning, and that may compromise their safety, should be taken seriously. Further evaluation by a mental health professional can help address your concerns. Should I be concerned about drug or alcohol use or other risky behaviors? Teens usually resort to drugs or alcohol to numb or avoid feelings. Teens may also engage in other risky behaviors (e.g., driving recklessly, cutting themselves, or having unprotected sex) as a way of coping with intense emotions related to their loss. Encourage your teen to find healthier ways to deal with their grief, such as talking with friends, attending a support group, getting help from a counselor, exercising, getting out in nature, or pursuing a hobby (e.g., painting or playing an instrument).