Giving Yourself the Gift of Self-care for the Holidays

For most of us, when we think about the holiday season, we think about spending time with friends and family. We may think of traveling or attending festive events. We conjure images of our favorite foods and fond memories. Our lives, however, can be filled with many unique challenges that can also make the holiday season difficult. While you are making your holiday gift lists this year, here are a few tips on how you can give yourself the gift of self-care this holiday season.

Be intentional about your own self-care. Start with a self-care plan. Be sure that your plan prioritizes your mental health and your overall wellness. Get plenty of rest, stay hydrated, and commit to a daily walk, or other form of moderate exercise. Exercise boosts mood and lowers anxiety. Daily exercise naturally produces stress-relieving hormones in your body and improves your overall physical health.

Set clear boundaries. Setting boundaries is essential to mental wellbeing. Self-compassion decreases trauma symptoms and stress. That includes setting boundaries regarding interaction with family. Family dynamics can be complex. Acknowledge them and accept that you can only control your role. You may feel obligated to spend time with certain individuals, knowing that you will leave those interactions feeling worse. The only true obligation you have is to take care of yourself this holiday season. If you need to, find ways to limit your exposure. If you are estranged from family, stay connected to your “family of choice” instead — those who support you and allow you to express yourself authentically.

Observe your use of substances. Early intervention can prevent problems. Overindulgence in alcohol and drugs does not reduce stress: in fact, they can worsen it. If you are struggling with substance abuse, educate yourself and get help.

Remember that it’s okay not to be okay, and it’s okay to ask for help. Struggling is normal. Asking for help is empowering. A gift you can give yourself this year is allowing emotional space for your feelings, whatever they may be. You can hold space to appreciate what you have this holiday season, while also feeling sadness for friends, family, or possessions that you have lost. There is room for all of your feelings. If you are feeling overwhelmed, it may be time to reach out to a mental health professional. If you are already seeing a therapist, keep it up. Also take medications as prescribed and keep health and therapy appointments during the holidays. 

If you find you need extra support this holiday season, the helplines are open, even on the holidays. You can reach them by calling or texting 988. You can also connect via 988 if you are worried about someone else, or just want to talk to someone to help you get through a difficult moment.

Peace and wellness to you this holiday season, and remember: self-care is not selfish; it is essential.